Do you “feel” things as you go through life? Do you experience the sensation of the great things – and even the not so great things - that happen to you, or around you? If so, you have a better chance of living “the happiest possible life”; because the truth is – it’s not what happens to us in life that matters most, it’s how we “react” to and “feel” about what happens that makes the difference. And that includes both the good things and the bad things.
As a simple example, if you feel the wonderful experience of a beautiful sunset (something that happens everyday), you will be in a better (happier) mindset – in general - than if you ignore the event regularly. I know I always “enjoy” (a feeling) watching a sunset. I feel an almost spiritual sense of wonder.
Look at another example: When you have achieved a goal – like securing that ideal, high-paying job in an area of your passion or getting down to your target body weight by losing 40 pounds – make sure to immerse yourself in the positive feeling of the achievement. And I don’t mean for a few hours, or a few days, or even a few months; but forever. Keep that feeling. Make it part of your attitude of gratitude. Remind yourself of how you feel by using some of the happiness strategies found on this website (like using pictures or the Three Great Things Exercise.
And as I mentioned at the beginning, this feeling philosophy of happiness goes for the bad things, too. Don’t deny your feelings of sadness or grief when it’s appropriate (see the article by Lisa Jacobson called Optimum Happiness Requires both Positve and Negative Emotions).
Yes folks, feelings are important to our ability to live the happiest possible life. So make sure to feel your way through life. Be aware. Be grateful. And...
BeHappy! my friends