Volume 004
June 2009

Hi... I’m Jimmy, and my mission is to improve your life by making it happier everyday.

I am a doctor, “rejuvenating” corporate executive, entrepreneur, author, and speaker. My wife (Jill), our two-and-a-half-year-old daughter (Joie), and our golden retriever (Sunny) live in Tampa Florida, Newport Beach California, and Vancouver, Canada (so we travel a lot).

I would love to hear from you on either how your life has improved by using the BeHappy! system, or how I can help improve your life more by making the system even better.

Please go to BeHappy101.com (or see the yellow box at the end of the newsletter) to provide your comments, suggestions, stories, or thoughts and I’ll respond to you personally as soon as possible. Here’s to your happiness and to having the kind of life you want to have!

BeHappy! my friends

Inside this Issue

Introduction to The BeHappy! Newsletter (for new subscribers)

Happiness Facts

Being Grateful ... Even Right Now During these Tough Times

Actions for the Next 60 Days to BeHappy!

What's New at BeHappy101.com

(for new subscribers)

The purpose of this newsletter is to provide a regular and consistent supplement to the action-oriented process described on my website - www.behappy101.com - and in my first book, simply called BeHappy!

It is intended to make a powerful contribution to the amount of joy and fulfillment in your daily life by providing regular tools, reminders, and strategies to:

- Live everyday with more PASSION, JOY, and FULFILLMENT
- Create and maintain better, stronger, long-lasting RELATIONSHIPS
- More easily get through the TOUGH TIMES we all experience in life
- Live HEALTHIER — and even LIVE LONGER — with more VITALITY
- Make more MONEY (even get WEALTHY)
- And much, much more

This is far beyond a “How To” concept. It is rather a “Do” system, which, when used in conjunction with the BeHappy! book, helps create your own personal “Happiness Plan” for your life. If you want a template or “blueprint” for this Happiness Plan, Click here and you can get it free.

Since my goal is to help make people happier, however, it is best to get the book to achieve maximum benefit from the plan (yes, that’s partly a sales pitch—but it’s true).

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  • Happiness experiments published in peer review journals have demonstrated that individuals can be “trained” to be twenty-five percent happier through various training programs in from two to ten weeks.

  • People who rate high on happiness psychological tests develop about 50% more antibodies than average in response to flu vaccines.
“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful.”
- Buddha
How to Really Be Grateful

It’s not easy for many people to be grateful right now. Our world is going through a difficult period. And some people believe it may get worse over the next couple of years before it starts getting better (some – like Harry Dent, author of The Great Depression Ahead - predict it will be around 2014 before we start to see a more positive economic and geo-political environment). That’s a long time for people to be “in pain”.

And I think most people are feeling it to some degree. I know we are. The effects of the economy and the media representation of world and local events contributes to a general sense of anxiety, despair, and danger.

So how can we be grateful? How can we see the “silver lining” when people are losing their jobs, their homes, their lives, and their “freedom” everyday?

In my book (BeHappy!) and on my website (www.behappy101.com) I provide many answers to these questions – and strategies to deal with them.

Regarding gratitude, it starts with focus. There are many well-known, and true, quotes about this. “We are what we think about”, “What we think about determines how we feel”, and “Our thoughts are our reality” are just a few.

Consider for a minute how you would feel if everyday when you woke up, you started thinking about everything that is “wrong” with your life (maybe you already do this, so you know exactly how bad it feels). And we all have things in our lives that aren’t the way we want them. So, as soon as you wake up, you think about the bills that are late, the car that isn’t working very well right now, the job you don’t like, the disagreements you’re having with your spouse, and the house that’s too small for your growing family. How would that affect your day?

Although I don’t watch the news – it’s tough to avoid the onslaught of bad news we are bombarded with everyday. And, just this week in the news was a story you probably heard about. It’s the story about the Air France plane that crash over the Atlantic Ocean, killing all 228 people on board. What a terrible tragedy. And, although there is very little reason I even need to know about this – especially since my entire family flies every couple of weeks – the only good thing I can find in knowing this information is that it makes me feel so grateful for not being one of those people – or even the family of those people. Think about it. How traumatic would that be? How terrible would it be to be one of the people in that plane? So, be grateful for being able to read this newsletter today!
Now, consider how different you would feel if the first thoughts you had every morning were: how lucky you are to be alive, how fortunate you are to have your home (in contrast to the millions who are losing theirs right now). Or if you have lost your home, think of how great it is that you are not terminally ill. And if you have a job right now – any job – be grateful!! Many people have lost or will lose their job in the current economy. And if you’ve lost your job, be grateful for any support you may be getting. And if you aren’t getting any support, be grateful that you aren’t a quadriplegic. And if you are a quadriplegic, be grateful for the friends and family relationships you have.

It’s important to find - and focus on - anything that makes you feel grateful; which is possible no matter how bad things may seem at the moment. Think of the people like Randy Pausch – the professor who died recently of pancreatic cancer, leaving behind a wife he adored and three young children. Think about W. Mitchell, the survivor of two near-fatal accidents, who is terribly disfigured and remains happy, productive, and successful. I could go on and on about the many people who most of us know about who have lived through tremendous adversity, yet remain positive and grateful for what they have in their lives.

Yes, there are many people who have it much worse than you and I - no matter what your circumstances are right now. Everything is relative. And there is so much to appreciate, if we focus on the right things.

This concept of being grateful will form the basis for part of the “Actions for the next 60 days” section below. So start thinking about what’s great in your life right now. You’ll immediately start to feel better. This needs to become a habit. Because, just like anything else, the more you do it, the better you become at it. If you train for a marathon, you get better at running. If you practice the piano everyday, you get better at it. And if you make gratitude a habit – by focusing on it daily – you get better at it. So ...


Like everything in life, the old saying, “practice makes perfect” applies to happiness, too. By using the tools and concepts in BeHappy - and applying the principles on my website (www.behappy101.com) and in this quarterly newsletter - you'll have the coaching and the “practice” you need to lead the happiest possible life. It takes daily action to get “perfect” at it, though.

So in this section of the newsletter, I’ll provide some simple exercises for the next two months (until the next edition of the newsletter) which will relate to the main "subject" of this edition of the newsletter and help make happiness a habit.

Just a few minutes of focus every day or two and you’ll be laying the foundation for the happiest possible life - both for yourself and for those you love.

If you do these things, I can promise you’ll notice a big difference in the quality of your life.

You will BeHappy!

Actions for the next 60 days:

“Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.”
- Margaret Cousins
Try these three actions for the next sixty days and by the time you receive the next BeHappy! Newsletter (around mid-August), I am confident you will feel more grateful and happy for the way your life is right now - regardless of your current circumstances:

  1. For the next 60 days, don’t watch the news. Don’t even read the newspaper. In fact, if you’re really committed to happiness, don’t watch TV at all. Take a break from the media “hype”. I know this will be tough for some. But come on – it’s just 60 days. You can go right back to focusing on the negatives provided constantly by the news media in 2 months (or maybe not).

  2. In place of watching the news, reading the newspaper, or watching TV, do the mental “Three Great Things Exercise” everyday towards the end of the day. Click on the links below to get “instructions” and other information on how to do this exercise:

    Basically, though, it involves spending just 15-30 minutes everyday (or longer if you want) going through 3 positive things that happened to you throughout the day. Ideally, this exercise is best done with someone else (like your spouse, roommate, sibling, parents, etc.). You share your positive experiences with them and they share theirs with you. YOU MUST do this everyday, though, for it to have an effect. Like I said earlier, it must become a habit. And sometimes it’s not easy to come up with 3 positive things from your day – or even to feel like doing the exercise at all. Do it anyway! Again, we’re just talking about 60 days here.

    To improve your life, click on any of the pictures below which represent areas of your life which you need to make better:

  3. To help you with the “Three Great Things”, make a Gratitude List. It should be as long as possible (so you have lots to choose from) and posted where you see it often (preferably several times every day). Here are some things which can go on your list:

    I am grateful for...

    • My family
    • My friends
    • My parents
    • My siblings
    • My job
    • My career
    • My house
    • My children
    • My health
    • My sight
    • Contributing to others
    • Being alive
    • My dog
    • My cat
    • My pet
    • My city or town
    • My creativity
    • My talents
    • My neighborhood
    • My lifestyle
    • The ability to travel
    • The ability to read
    • My faith
    • My spirituality
    • Music
    • My purpose in life
    • My spouse
    • The ability to love and be loved
    • My memories
    • My gifts
    • Life
    • My experiences
    • Opportunities
    • My country
    • Summer
    • Who I am
    • What I do
    • Sunrises and sunsets
    • My successes
    • Laughter

Write down this list and add to it. Make it yours. Feel the emotions associated with the things you have on your Gratitude List. Enjoy the appreciation you feel by just writing it down (I know I did by just doing it here in this newsletter).

Then, put it up somewhere; maybe on your refrigerator or on your computer’s screensaver. Put it on your desk at the office or in your home. And LOOK AT IT everyday. Use it to spark your thinking for your Three Great Things Exercise at the end of every day.

Use the tools found at BeHappy101.com to help you in all areas of your life.

For now (and for this next 60-day period) just get this process started by doing some of these basic things to help you be more grateful for what you have – and not focus on what’s missing or wrong. Do this for the next 60 days. Make it a habit. It will change your life.

WHAT'S NEW AT BeHappy101.com:

Every issue of this newsletter will keep you up to date on new stuff at BeHappy101.com so you can get maximum benefit from the BeHappy! system. You can access any of these quickly by just clicking on the links in the list below.

Here are a few additions over the past two months:

  • Notes from the Desk of The Neighborhood Shrink: This is a new “clinical” contributor to behappy101.com. Eugene “Chip” Weiner is a clinical psychologist and close personal friend. He provides weekly contributions to behappy101.com on relationships, happiness, mental health, and much more.

  • PART THREE of an effective new goal-setting process for establishing and achieving goals.

  • Part 4 of the “financial” series called, Overcoming Fear to Thrive in the Current Economy, which is intended to help us all get through the difficult economy we are experiencing in 2009.

    Please contribute to the happiness of others by providing your own stories, jokes, testimonials, comments and personal tips on happiness, dealing with adversity, and relationships on the website (there are many places throughout the site to add your messages to help others)

    To contribute HAPPINESS tips: click here
    To contribute RELATIONSHIP tips: click here
    To contribute ADVERSITY tips: click here
    To contribute GOAL tips: click here

  • Several new "social networking" invitations which allow you - a visitor to the BeHappy! site - to contribute your own thoughts, tips, strategies and stories on how to BeHappy!, deal with adversity, start or maintain great relationships, and much more. SEE THE YELLOW BOX here ...
    to click a link directly to one of these areas and provide YOUR CONTRIBUTION to the happiness of others

  • Thought for Today - a feature on the site initiated February 1st which has provided a new thought every single day since then. Each new Thought for Today gets posted on the behappy101.com homepage every morning (365 days of the year) around 5:00 a.m. (unless I sleep in – then it might be 6:00 a.m.). These are thoughts to help start your day off right. The thoughts are generally about happiness, success, relationships, money, etc. So go to the website everyday for a new “thought”. You’ll soon become “addicted” – and it will improve your life tremendously.

  • Several new “Quick Tips” to help increase happiness everyday

  • New Quotes, Poems, and Jokes to help inspire and motivate you, or just make you laugh.
And much, much more. So until the next edition of the BeHappy! Newsletter in mid-August...

Thanks – and...

BeHappy! my friends

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