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The BeHappy! Newsletter, Issue #024
February 24, 2013

Volume 024
February 2013

Relationships, PART THREE (of a 3-Part Series):
Managing and Improving ALL Your Relationships

Hi there...

If you’re one of the hundreds of new daily visitors to or a new subscriber to this BeHappy! Newsletter... welcome aboard!

I’m Jimmy, and my mission is to improve your life dramatically by making it a bit happier - or, better yet, a lot happier - everyday.

I am a doctor, corporate executive, entrepreneur, author, and speaker. My wife (Jill), our six-year-old daughter (Joie), and our three-year-old daughter (Jae) live in Tampa Florida and Newport Beach California.

Through this newsletter, my website, my books, E-Coaching, and other BeHappy! products, I am committed to improving the lives of as many people as possible. So, I would love to hear from you on how your life has changed by using the BeHappy! system, or how I can help improve your life more by making the system even better. Just click here to contact me and I’ll respond to you personally as soon as possible – or just give me your happiness tips, comments, suggestions, stories, or thoughts to share with others.

Here’s to your happiness and to having the kind of life you want to have!

BeHappy! my friends

Inside this Issue

Introduction to The BeHappy! Newsletter
(for new subscribers)

Happiness Facts

Follow Up to the Last Edition’s “Actions”

Relationships – Part Three: Managing and Improving All Your Relationships

Actions for the Next 60 Days to BeHappy!

What's New at

INTRODUCTION for new subscribers
(prior subscribers – skip down to the “Happiness Facts” section)

The purpose of this newsletter is to provide a regular and consistent supplement to the action-oriented process found within my website - - and in my book, BeHappy!

It is intended to make a powerful contribution to the amount of joy and fulfillment in your daily life by providing regular tools, reminders, and strategies to: This is far beyond a “How To” concept. It is rather a “Do” system, which, when used in conjunction with the BeHappy! book and The Happiness Academy (coming in 2013), helps create your own personal “Happiness Plan” for your life. If you want a template or “blueprint” for this Happiness Plan, click here and you can get it free.

Since my goal is to help make people happier, however, it is best to get the book, BeHappy! to use along with the website to achieve maximum benefit from the plan (yes, that’s partly a sales pitch — but it’s true).

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  • February is designated as "Friendship Month".

  • 40% of women would consider dumping a boyfriend if her friends didn’t like him.

  • Happier people have better relationships. Being happy makes people more interested in befriending you. When we are happy, we behave in certain ways that make people enjoy being around us more. The friends we already have will be more likely to stick with us when the chips are down if the chips aren’t always down.

Follow Up from the Last Edition of
The BeHappy! Newsletter

The December edition of The BeHappy! Newsletter was Part 2 of this “mini-series” on relationships, focusing on marriage, which is one of the most important relationships two people can create.

If you are married, or in a serious relationship with someone you will likely marry someday, how did the exercises go from the December issue of the newsletter? Did you analyze your rules and those of your spouse or significant other? Did you discuss the differences between your rules and look for ways to reduce or minimize your conflicting rules? Did you make a new commitment in your relationship? What about your sex life? If it’s great, did you create a plan to make it even better? If it’s not so great, did you get “aggressive” and make a plan to improve it.

Remember, marriage is one of the most intimate, beautiful, fulfilling relationships in life – so make it outstanding by evaluating your rules (and changing them if necessary), improving your sex life and re-committing your life to your spouse.

Now, on to the topic for this edition of The BeHappy! Newsletter...

Relationships - Part Three
Managing and Improving All Your Relationships

"The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships"
-Tony Robbins
My former business partner, Tony Robbins, says that “the quality of your life is the quality of your relationships”.

Most people would not disagree with that statement. Think about it. If you have a passionate, loving, fulfilling marriage, lots of great friends, a close-nit, supportive family, and many solid business relationships, life is probably pretty good – regardless of the circumstances. On the other hand, if you have a distant, stressed, antagonistic marriage, no close friends, a family that doesn’t get along, and business associates you don’t like or trust, life can be pretty miserable – even if other areas of your life are good.

We can pretend our nice houses, fast cars, expensive wardrobes, and thriving careers are enough, but when we’re alone at home being honest about it, it’s just not enough. Positive, loving, close, fulfilling human interaction – on a regular basis – is essential to living the happiest possible life.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying here that money, wealth, success, and even fame cannot make us happy. They are like everything in life – they can help. But nothing is absolute – including relationships. Life is complicated. Also, your personal Definition of Happiness is a big determining factor in your overall happiness (and in your relationship success and fulfillment).

The 3 fundamental essentials for relationship “success” of any kind are:
  1. Happiness
  2. Selflessness
  3. Rules Management
An entire course can be taught – or an entire book written – on each of these relationship essentials, but for the purposes of this newsletter “mini-series”, let’s touch on the main points on each of these critical issues…


The happiness loop discussed in the October issue of this newsletter is the fundamental concept here. In other words, a happy outlook (and being truly happy) helps find and create better relationships.

With an intimate, one-on-one relationship, for example, it is much more likely to last long-term if you are both happy and, if you aren’t already in such a relationship, you are more likely to find the right person in the first place – perhaps even your soul mate - if you are a happy, positive person. In a family situation, happiness makes personal connections closer and kids more enthusiastic and principled. Even business relationships and your job satisfaction are improved by being happy.

So be playful and care-free. Life is so much better when we are excited and passionate – and relationships are so much better, too. Use “The Happiness Formula” I created as a start.


For a relationship to be truly successful (and ultimately fulfilling), it is critical for you to be a “giver” rather than a “taker”. This is certainly true in a one-on-one intimate connection (like marriage), but it’s also true in all types of relationships – like friendships, family relationships, and even business associations.

Contributing to the life of the other person – or the other people – in your life will cause your relationships to flourish. In fact, even if the other person in the relationship is not a “giver” – you still need to “give” if you want the relationship to survive. Not only does this fulfill the “contribution” component of my “Happiness Formula”, it also will generally cause the other person in the relationship to start giving, too, over time.

Rules Management

Just as described in Part 2 of this series about marriage (the December issue) – our rules can destroy any of our relationships. If your rules are very different from the people you are in a relationship with – and especially if those rules are very strict rules – you will definitely experience conflict, probably serious conflict, with many people, and your relationships will suffer. So, if this is an issue for you, it is critical that you change your rules.

I realize this may seem overly simplistic, but it’s really the way it is. The concepts are basically the same for all types of relationships.

If you are happy... your friendships, family relationships, business associations, marriage, and the relationships with your children will be better.

If you are a “giver”... to your friends, spouse, family members, children, and business associates, these relationships will all be better.

And, if you reduce the number of rules in your life... and make the rules you keep much less strict (make them guidelines, for example) – then your marriage, friendships, business relationships, and the relationships with your children will be better.

These are the keys to great relationships in your life. It’s really pretty simple - but not always easy. If you can master it, though, everything will be so much better since your relationships will help fuel life’s many “happiness loops” (financial, physical, emotional, and spiritual).

So, now it’s time to take action to help improve your relationships. Even if they are already great, there may be some things you can do to make them even better.


Like everything in life, the old saying, “practice makes perfect” applies to happiness, too. By using the tools and concepts in the book, BeHappy! - and applying the principles found at and in this bi-monthly newsletter - you'll get the coaching and the “practice” you need to lead the happiest possible life.

It takes daily action to get “perfect” at it, though.

So, if you have read previous editions of The BeHappy! Newsletter you know that every issue provides some simple action-oriented exercises for the next two months (until the next edition of the newsletter) which relate to the main subject of this edition of the newsletter to help make happiness a habit.

Just a few minutes of focus every day and you’ll be laying the foundation for the happiest possible life - both for yourself and for those you love.

If you do these things, I can promise you’ll notice a big difference in the quality of your life.

You will BeHappy!

Actions for the next 60 days:

Take these actions over the next sixty days and by the time you receive the next edition of the BeHappy! Newsletter (in April), you will notice a significant improvement in your relationships – and your life.

Actions to Take:
  1. For each of the most important relationships in your life, list 4 or 5 things you can do to contribute to that person on a regular basis. It doesn’t have to be huge. It just needs to be consistent. Contribute your time, effort, and heart to these people. Create a plan – and maybe even a “to do” schedule - for helping and giving to these people every day, week, and month.

  2. Do the same “rules” exercise you did for marriage, but this time do it for all your close relationships.

    Write down your rules and your perception of the rules of those people you spend the most time with. Then, figure out which of your rules you can reduce to guidelines, or even eliminate completely. If possible, then go talk to each of the people on your list and discuss rules with them. Once again, go back to the February 2012 edition of the BeHappy! Newsletter to read a bit more about changing your rules to improve your relationships – as well as the Rules section of for some general advice on changing your rules.


    Every issue of this newsletter will keep you up to date on new stuff at so you can get maximum benefit from the BeHappy! system. You can access any of these quickly by just clicking on the links in the list below.

    Here's what's new at
    • By the time you get the next edition of this newsletter, the website will be totally revamped. There will be more information, a simpler navigation system, and the introduction of many new products and services intended to help you live your happiest possible life. You can "see me" building it by checking out a partially operational, only partly complete “sneak preview” of what the site will look like by clicking here. Remember, this is not fully operational and so many of the links don't yet work (some do) and most of the content is not yet there. It's just for you, one of my loyal subscribers, to see a bit of what's coming - and if you have any thoughts or opinions, let me know.
    • I am still working on a potential video version of this newsletter. I plan to charge an annual or monthly fee for this newsletter, but will provide either a free or significantly reduced price for you, my current subscribers. I should know whether it will all work by the next edition of the newsletter and will let you know.
    • As always, there are new Quotes & Poems added to the website every month or two. At this point, there are well over 1,500 quotes there for you to read, use, and share.
    • The Happiness Academy...A complete 6-month "happiness course" which will transform your life (should be ready to go by April 2013). Just click on the red button here to check it out...
    And much, much more.

    So until the next edition of The BeHappy! Newsletter in April...

    Thanks for being a loyal subscriber and...

    BeHappy! my friends

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just click the "Buy Now" button here...

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