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A very good friend of mine says, "friends are the family you choose for yourself". 

What a great message!

When it comes to relationships, there is no greater gift in life than to have true friends. 

In fact, relationships, in general, are one key to the happiest possible life. 

Beyond that, studies show that people who have the most "social" interactions live the longest.

Yes, friendship is a wonderful thing.  So, let me ask you a few questions:

  • Do you have lots of friends or are you someone who prefers to have just one or two friends? 
  • Do you have a "best friend"?
  • On a scale of 1-10, how important are your friendships to you?
  • Do you want (or feel you need) more friends?
  • Are your current friends a source of comfort, fun, connection, and joy, and fulfillment?
  • Do you need to improve the relationships you have with the people you currently call your friends?

Well, read on to get some basic tips to help you have better friendships (and be a better friend).

Do You Need to Improve the Friendships You Already Have?

If you already have friends, but the relationships are not as good or close as you would like, there are a few things you should do:

First, you have to know who you are, what's most important to you, and what makes you happy (or would make you happy if you had it).   Your personal Definition of Happiness is always the place to start.  

Next, you have to make the time for your friends.  You have to make your friendship a priority.  People basically want to have someone who will listen to them, make time for them, and be there when they need them.  Taking it even further, though, can be important, too.  Just a phone call can be enough.  Better yet, scheduling a one-on-one lunch regularly with your best friends makes the bond stronger. 

Be a positive factor in their lives.  People will forget what you said and what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.  If you make your friends feel good, they will want to make you feel good, too.

Don't try to change them.  Accept your friends for who they are.  If you can't, then they shouldn't be one of your "friends".  They can certainly still be someone you care about and maybe even spend some time with, but it's also important to know who can't be your friend.

Do You Need More Friends (or Even Just "A Friend")?

If you feel you don't have enough "true" friends and need to develop some meaningful friendships, here are some ideas on how to get started:

  • Get a dog.  Pets, in general, are a great source of joy - both fundamentally as "companions" and "friends" (and for many people, even as "family"), but they are also a great source of attracting potential new relationships - both friendships and more intimate relationships.  My wife's best friend, for example, is the result of seeing each other at the local dog park many years ago.  
  • Sign up for a group experience - like a travel tour, outdoor activity or other social event.  People tend to bond more easily when they are out of their comfort zone. A fun, challenging group experience can provide quick way to meet and connect with people who share a unique experience and some great memories.
  • Take a class in something you love.  This again exposes you to people with a similar interest.  Having something in common with people is a great way to start a friendship.
  • Be happy and smile a lot.  One of my favorite quotes is...  "There is nothing more attractive than a happy person". So, BE HAPPY, and you'll attract plenty of people as possible friends.
  • Make sure you know your personal Definition of Happiness.  The more you know yourself - and can be yourself - the better chance you'll have of attracting the "right" friends, and being a great friend.  Learn your own personal Definition of Happiness (and get two free ebooks) by clicking on the "Get Instant Access" button here...

Friends (like family) are there for you. 

If you have good, close friends, you know what that means.  If you don't have great friends, why not?

Get the friends you want by clicking here to check out this great resource for becoming more "social" and "friendly".

And, check out these other great resources and products related to "friends" and friendship...

Learn all about how to improve all your relationships by getting my free Happiness Formula video course.  Just fill in the information below.  You can also check out other relationship parts of this website by clicking here.

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