Published Saturday, October 17, 2009
The real secret to being happy may be realizing that true peace isn't about being giddy and feeling as if you're charged up on Red Bull all the time.
Mike Roizen and Mehmet Oz
Positive emotions not only feel good, they play a crucial role in your health. Negative emotions change our brain function in ways that increase stress, which raises the risk of problems such as cancer and heart disease. And since positive emotions change the way our brains function to reduce stress, they can help cancel out those health risks. So how do you get happy? Might not be how you think. Use these six paths:
1. Be Positive - and Generous
Almost every study of longevity indicates one secret that makes people healthier and happier: helping others. Some research shows a 60 per cent decrease in mortality rates among those who do this. It inspires gratitude for what life has given you, and it's what really helps you define your purpose in life. The real secret to being happy may be realizing that true peace isn't about being giddy and feeling as if you're charged up on Red Bull all the time. It's about slowing down enough to realize that you have a lot of gifts - gifts you should be passing along to others.
2. Feel Empathy
There's a survival value in feeling empathy for others; teaming up to fend off an attack is more advantageous than doing it alone. Our moral system (and, to some degree, our happiness) is largely dependent on how connected we feel with others; the more connected we feel, the higher our degree of generosity and compassion. That's what allows an essential, health-giving thing to happen: You can connect with other humans and transcend your differences.
3. Find Authenticity
True human experience - which helps you be happy and healthy - happens not necessarily because we're smarter; it happens because we're deeper. Most of our lives are spent driven by external factors and motivators (striving for that promotion or new iPhone) as opposed to intrinsic ones with a higher ideal (a love of the work you do and your purpose). So, to find our true, authentic self and be happy about what we find, we must contemplate the big picture and realize we're not the hub in the centre of the wheel, but are one node that's connected to the centre at all times. When we break through a level of superficiality that many people typically tend to live with, that's when we break through to a different, healthier experience in life.
4. Embrace Emotion
The good life isn't achieved by ignoring emotions when they come up, whether we're reacting painfully to the loss of a loved one or getting angry when we're mad at our boss or kids. The goal, instead, is to observe emotions and use them intelligently. That means recognizing your emotions and doing things like counting to 10 before overreacting with emotion in an argument.
5. Explore Spirituality
For some, being spiritual means going to church every day. For others, it means finding a silent place to meditate and think about the bigger picture in life. No matter how you do it or what you call it, meditation or prayer can help slow breathing and brain activity, and it reduces heart rate and blood pressure. Plus, when you do it, you typically don't finish feeling as though you want to rap someone's ankles with a wooden spoon. You're more likely to be filled with peace, joy and other emotions that are worthy of being printed on holiday cocktail napkins. And there's some evidence that these emotions lead to positive physiological responses throughout your body.
6. Understand Unhappiness
Being happy means you realize that there are times you will be unhappy and recognize that life sometimes stinks. We're not saying you should lower your expectations; we just believe that if you can align your expectations with reality by expecting to face challenges, you'll be better off. A little unhappiness here and there forces you to think through problems and think about what gives you happiness so you can set new directions that may change your life.
The You Docs - Mike Roizen and Mehmet Oz - www.RealAge.com are authors of "YOU The Owner's Manual."
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