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One of the things we sign up for in a committed relationship is taking some responsibility for the feelings of our mate. Try to keep in mind that you are the custodian of your partner's relationship serenity, and they the custodian of yours (if you let them in). Many times we forget, or trivialize, the enormity of that responsibility. Your lover needs to be able to trust that you will handle their serenity with great care. Try to keep it as a high priority, reassure them from time to time that you understand your responsibility, and ask them every once in awhile how you are doing. It's not that they need to depend on you for emotional serenity, but that they can rely on you for it; there is a difference! If you see it as a burden you will resent it. If you take it on as a personal challenge, your relationship will thrive.
When we are angry or frustrated with others it is easy to put this responsibility aside and fight for ourselves. In doing so, we create chaos in both of our lives. Stop and remember the importance of humility, and of your partner’s serenity.
Eugene D. “Chip” Weiner
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