The Blog: Thoughts and Reflections for Happier Daily Living

Stress Is A Choice

Thu, 10 May 2012 17:17:50 GMT

Simplify your life by checking this out (just click on the image below)...

The Happiness Academy

Sun, 15 Apr 2012 01:17:05 GMT

The Happiness Academy is a powerful and comprehensive 6-month program designed to make anyone be as happy as they can be.

New BeHappy! Quotes

Fri, 20 Jan 2012 19:45:23 GMT

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

For those of you who are regular visitors to BeHappy101.com, you probably know that every single day (365 days a year) I put up a Thought for Today, which is an inspirational quote on happiness, success, motivation, money, relationships, or spirituality. Every quote for the past three years is then listed in the specific section for that topic (just click on the links in the sentence above to go to that particular page of quotes).

Today, I posted dozens of new quotes from the past couple of months, so check 'em out. Again, just click on the links above to go directly to that section of quotes for the topic you want.

Also, if you want a whole book of quotes - "1000 Quotes to Make You Happier" - make sure to grab your FREE E-book gift package, just for visiting BeHappy101.com ... Yes, get both of these popular e-books FREE (normally $28.65) by clicking here.

BeHappy! my friends

Have You Set Your Goals for 2012 and Beyond?

Wed, 04 Jan 2012 11:24:15 GMT

Friday, January 13, 2012

If not, what are you waiting for? Click here to get started on your goal-setting process.

Just as important ... if you have set your goals for this year (and beyond) have you maximized your chances of achieving those goals?

One common reason that we don't achieve the goals we set for ourselves is because we tend to get distracted and lose track of important things that need to be done consistently, in order to make real progress toward goals.

The key to really achieving your goals in life lies in constantly reviewing your goals and measuring your progress, in other words, keeping your goals on track.

To help you establish solid, meaningful goals - and maximize your chances of achieving those goals - I recommend Goals-On-Track software, an easy to use, web 2.0 style goal setting, goal tracking, task and time management program that helps you accomplish any goals in life - without fail! Click here to get this GUARANTEED system for setting and achieving your goals.

Also, check out the "Happy New Year" post below to read a complete series on goal setting.

Holiday Happiness #6

Mon, 02 Jan 2012 16:49:38 GMT

Friday, January 6, 2012

It's a New Year ... and with every new year brings an opportunity to reevaluate your life, establish new goals, and/or re-commit to achieving already established goals.

Whatever is the case for you, what's important is that you know what happiness means to you (it's different for everybody) and have a plan to create your happiest possible life based on that personal Definition of Happiness.

Click here to read the 6^th installment of the "Holiday Happiness" series, which is all about making 2012 your best, happiest year ever.

BeHappy! my friends

I dont think I agree...............

Thu, 29 Dec 2011 01:56:05 GMT

Regarding the article by The Neighborhood Shrink called Dealing With Master Manipulators, I believe that most people do the best they can , in general

Holiday Happiness #5

Wed, 28 Dec 2011 03:45:35 GMT

It's time to say goodbye to 2011 and ring in another new year! How time flies.

For many people, leaving 2011 represents a welcome change since the past year may have been very difficult. For others, 2011 may not have been so bad. It may have even been a fantastic year. Whichever it was for you, could 2012 be better? Do you have some New Years resolutions you want to fulfill? What about some annual goals? (there is a difference between resolutions and goals)

Whatever the case many be, if you want to create your best year ever in 2012, click here to learn how to make and fulfill New Years resolutions for the coming year, create goals for 2012 and beyond (and understand the difference between resolutions and goals), and much more.

The next year will come and go for each of us as it does every year. So if you want to increase your chances that one year from now you'll be looking back over 2012 with a huge smile on your face and a deep sense of happiness in your heart, thinking "what an awesome year that was", then make sure to click here to read more on how to make 2012 your best year ever.

BeHappy! my friends and ...

Happy New Year!!

Holiday Happiness #4

Thu, 22 Dec 2011 22:19:43 GMT

The holidays are peaking, but hopefully your stress, anxiety, and fatigue are not.

With only 10 days left in 2011, it wouldn't be surprising to be a bit frazzled. But you really don't have to feel that way.

Hopefully you have been following this BeHappy101.com "Holiday Happiness" Series. If so, I am sure the past few weeks have gone more smoothly than they usually do at this time of year and you are enjoying the holidays much more.

If things are still tough, though, there is still time to make the last week of the year great, and just as importantly, to start off 2012 with a positive, grateful attitude.

So, to make that happen, just click here to read Part 4 of this "Holiday Happiness" series.

BeHappy! my friends

Holiday Happiness #3

Tue, 20 Dec 2011 13:15:58 GMT

This third post in the BeHappy! "Holiday Happiness" Series is intended to help us finish the year as stress-free and energized as possible.

By now, many people can’t even imagine being “energized” after the holidays, but it really is possible, even though the season can be exhausting.

But by following some simple strategies, you can reduce the stress of the season, and "coast" into the New Year by doing a few simple things that can make all the difference.

Just click here to read Part 3 of the series.

BeHappy! my friends

IF YOU STILL NEED SOME HOLIDAY GIFTS...

Tue, 20 Dec 2011 02:52:16 GMT

If you've waited until the last minute to shop for the holidays ...

or you need to get some gifts for the New Year ...

or you just want to start exploring ways to get healthy or lose weight in 2011 ...

Click here to access tons of "happiness products" you can get quickly online.

Products like:

- Digital picture frames (to keep "happiness" in front of you all day)

- Children's gifts

- Fast, effective Fat Loss Strategies

- Products to improve your marriage or relationship

...And much more.

Happy Holidays and...

BeHappy! my friends

Holiday Happiness #2

Fri, 16 Dec 2011 14:09:46 GMT

So how were the past few days for you (since the last "Holiday" Blog Post)? Were they happier and less hectic, with feelings of gratitude and excitement or were they stressful and frustrating, with feelings of anxiety and fatigue? Are you getting through the holidays more smoothly than in past years based on the tips provided there, and in the latest edition of The BeHappy! Newsletter?

If not, there’s still time to turn things around, have a Happy Holiday season, and enjoy the next few weeks to the fullest if you do some simple things to help reduce the stress and anxiety the holidays can create.

So, click here to read more and BeHappy!

The next blog post (Holiday Happiness #3) will be out the week of December 19th, then #4 will be just before the New Year, and the final post in the series will be right at the start of the New Year to help immediately begin to make 2012 your best, happiest year ever.

BeHappy! my friends

Holiday Happiness #1

Tue, 13 Dec 2011 03:52:57 GMT

Most people agree that the holidays can be very stressful. There are many expectations and obligations to meet, parties to attend, and gifts to buy (which can stretch the limits of your budget). Maybe you are one of the many people who feel alone, or even depressed, during this time of year.

Well, whatever your situation, this series of posts through the first week of January is to make this time of year a bit less stressed and help us all get through the season, and the New Year, a bit easier.

One objective of this first post of the series is to focus on what's most important (the "big picture", if you will). That’s an essential component of the process since the details of the season can be “overwhelming”.

Next, it’s important to assess our individual needs, desires, and influences as related to creating the best holiday season possible. To do that, we’ll start with two basic questions everyone should answer at this time of year:

What makes the holidays stressful, difficult, and/or “unhappy”?
What do I – or could I – love about the holidays?

If you answer these two questions honestly for yourself, you will have a great start to making this holiday season very happy and joyous.

Spend a few minutes right now answering those two questions. Do it right now.

Make sure not to skip this, because over the next couple of weeks it’s important to think about the answers to these questions – and use them to create a “Holiday Happiness Plan” for yourself (see below) which expands the positives and minimizes the negatives.

Also, one of the common issues for just about everyone during the holidays is getting everything done and dealing with all the expectations.

So over the next 24 hours, develop your “Holiday Happiness Plan”. I’ve designed a “Holiday Happiness Planner” – a planning template – to help you create that plan and guide you through the next few weeks more smoothly.

Click here to open up a copy of my “Holiday Happiness Planner” template to get started with the process. Start building the plan using the template – and begin implementing any of the issues which arise within the next week (like shopping, party, eating, and exercise plans). In the next post we’ll begin to address some of specific issues associated with your plan.

BeHappy! my friends

Related articles and information:

A Healthy Dose of Kindness and Gratitude Buffers Holiday Blues

Notes from the Desk of the Neighborhood Shrink:

The BeHappy Program

Thu, 08 Dec 2011 12:02:26 GMT

The BeHappy! Program is a complete 6 month, step-by-step system which will make you happy for life! Guaranteed.

Holiday Happiness ... Coming Soon!

Wed, 30 Nov 2011 11:34:50 GMT

November 30, 2011

It's that time of year again ... already!! That wonderful, joyful, family-oriented, spiritual time of the year when many people get stressed, fat, in debt, and sometimes, even depressed.

Well, for BeHappy! Newsletter subscribers, the "Holiday Happiness" edition will be sent to you by December 9th. In it, you'll find lots of strategies to help you have the happiest, healthiest, most joyful, least stressful holiday season ever ... as well as prepare you for your best year ever in 2012.

So, if you are already a BeHappy! Newsletter subscriber, don't miss the next edition; and if you aren't yet a subscriber, click here to subscribe FREE (it's a $150 annual value ... and worth much more to your overall happiness).

BeHappy! my friends

The Dash Poem

Wed, 23 Mar 2011 15:20:26 GMT

On your tombstone, you'll have the date you were born and the date you died. The "dash" in between those dates represents your life.

If you have never read (or experienced) The Dash Poem, do yourself a favor and click on this link right now...

The Dash Poem

Live "Your Dash" and...

BeHappy! my friends

If More Money Could Help You Be Happier...

Wed, 19 Jan 2011 14:04:38 GMT

Within this BeHappy101.com website, I try to address every aspect of life that can help make you happier and more fulfilled in your life.

Whether it's relationships, happiness at work, stress reduction, money and wealth, or any of the many other aspects of life that determine our degree of happiness - I try to address it.

Well, yesterday I came across a new software tool that is already producing unbelievable results for my internet marketing business.

So, if money and wealth are important to you (i.e., part of your Definition of Happiness) and if making money online is of interest to you, Click Here to watch a video that can make you thousands - or even tens of thousands (and more) - in a very short time.

Believe it or not, the guy who developed this simple system for making money online is making millions with it - and apparently made over $400,000 in 31 days using the system.

Now, if you aren't really sure about internet marketing (making money online), then click here to get a basic understanding of it, and you'll see very quickly the power of the concept. All the best to you.

BeHappy! my friends

Learn how your mind works ... and how to achieve any goal in life.

Thu, 23 Sep 2010 14:51:36 GMT

One of my colleagues, Eldon Taylor, is a New York Times bestselling author who teaches "how your mind works" and how to use that knowledge to achieve any goal you want in life.

Well, he's made a special offer for my friends -- a free video presentation available for visitors to BeHappy101.com. I am going to watch it for the first time today, but I'm sure it will be good - and well worth your time to watch. I wanted to get you the opportunity before it's gone.

Check it out by clicking here.

BeHappy! my friends

Internet Marketing 101

Tue, 14 Sep 2010 13:31:46 GMT

Is money and income important to your happiness? Well, internet marketing is a great way to make a significant income working only a few hours a day. Check it out...

Join "The Happiness Group"

Wed, 08 Sep 2010 04:01:40 GMT

September 7, 2010

If you want to be part of a new community of people dedicated to helping each other create the happiest possible life, click on this link (or copy and paste it into your browser) for a quick 1.5 minute video introduction I just made from Newport Beach: www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCnXNaPdPH4.

To join ... go to facebook, search for "The Happiness Group" and join. Then invite all your friends. It will be a great ride!

BeHappy! my friends

Two weeks at Catalina Island!!

Wed, 11 Aug 2010 13:43:05 GMT

August 11, 2010

We just spent the past two weeks on our boat at Catalina Island (a wonderful island off the coast of Newport Beach, California). It was our first trip back there since our terrible boat accident in November 2008 (you can read the story about that accident by clicking here).

Since we've been out on an island, I haven't added much to this website in the past two weeks and am a bit behind on some things (I was, however, able to update my daily "Thought for Today" every single day - so I still haven't missed one since I started it in February 2009).

Well, anyway, I plan on writing an article in the next few weeks about it - and the many "happiness messages" it provides for all of us. So please check back in the next couple of weeks or so to read more about it.

BeHappy! my friends

Do you want to be GRATEFUL for what you have?

Sun, 25 Jul 2010 12:21:29 GMT

You should...

Because as you've probably seen if you've spent any time on this website, gratitude is a key component of true happiness in life. In fact, I believe you can't live your happiest possible life if you are not grateful for what you have.

Everyone goes through tough times. We all experience stress and varying degrees of pain.

The question is, do we let those tough times, that stress and that pain become our focus? Or, are we able to appreciate what we have in life - and be happy - regardless of the circumstances we're facing?

Check out this video and I guarantee you'll at least start to think differently about how great life is (or could be) - no matter what's going on in your life right now (just click on this link):

Be grateful for what you have!!

BeHappy! my friends

WealthBuilder101

Thu, 22 Jul 2010 05:42:16 GMT

Wealthbuilder101 is dedicated to helping people invest wisely and build wealth over time. No gimmicks or get-rich-quick schemes. Just basic, sound investment strategies for everyone.

"Free Your Mind"

Mon, 19 Jul 2010 04:58:28 GMT

I was the guest on a one-hour radio show in LA today (July 18th) called "Free Your Mind". Get some "tangible" tips on how to BeHappy! by clicking here to listen to the show (once on the site, click on the July 18th archive button).

Enjoy, and...

BeHappy! my friends

What is your "Definition of Happiness"?

Tue, 13 Jul 2010 14:15:22 GMT

The desire for happiness is something just about all of us have in common. Regardless of nationality, beliefs, or values, the desire for happiness is there.

One issue, though, is the fact that everybody is different when it comes to what makes them happy. In other words, everyone's Definition of Happiness is different.

Some people, for example, are happiest when they are working. Other people are happiest when they are "playing". Many people are happiest when they are with family or friends. Happiness for many people means having a certain amount of income or wealth. For others, life balance is the way to have the happiest possible life.

Have you established your true Definition of Happiness?

If not, do it. It is the crucial first step in creating your happiest possible life. In other words, you really can't be as happy as possible if you don't first know (and I mean really know) what happiness means for you personally.

Once you know that important Definition of Happiness, create a plan to make that definition a reality. In addition to a plan ...

Check out these effective products, which have been picked to help you achieve that true definition (just click on this link): Products to make you happy

BeHappy! my friends

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Relationships: Products to help improve your relationships
Money: Products to help increase your income and/or help you get wealthy
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Children: Products to help raise happier children
Weight Loss: Products to help you lose weight
Weight Loss: Products to help you get healthier

Are you "unhappy" about your weight or "shape"?

Wed, 07 Jul 2010 00:30:25 GMT

If you've spent time here at BeHappy101.com, you know there are many aspects to living your happiest possible life. Among those - health, fitness, vitality, and physical appearance can all play a role for many people.

Being "in shape" and at your ideal weight not only makes you look good, but also helps you "feel good", improves your self-esteem and even improves overall general health.

That's why part of the BeHappy! system includes tips and strategies for weight management, fat loss, exercise, and general nutritional support. It simply makes a big difference in attitude and outlook.

This system - Fast Track to Fat Loss - while it may sound a bit "gimicky", is one product you may want to check out if you need help in this area.

It's 100% guaranteed to help you lose fat and look your best (in other words, if it doesn't work for you, you can get a no-questions-asked refund of every cent). There is absolutely no risk for you to just check it out.

So, click here now to read more about this great new strategy for fast and easy fat loss!!

BeHappy! my friends

Relationship Beginnings: Don't Get Lost in Loneliness

Sat, 03 Jul 2010 14:06:53 GMT

The third in a 3-part series on "relationship beginnings" from The Neighborhood Shrink.

Goodbye Sweet "Lady Di" ... Death and Happiness?

Wed, 30 Jun 2010 07:17:28 GMT

June 23, 2010

Does the death of someone you love affect happiness? Here is a personal situation that discusses this issue.

Relationship Beginnings: Don't Get Lost in Lust

Tue, 22 Jun 2010 11:02:48 GMT

The second of a 3-part series on "relationship beginnings", this note from the Neighborhood Shrink is about "lust" and how it can cause issues.

Can Couples Talk Too Much?

Sat, 12 Jun 2010 18:23:19 GMT

Communication is key in relationships. But, can couples talk too much? The Neighborhood Shrink gives his thoughts in this Note from his desk.

BeHappy! ... Save Your Marriage!

Mon, 07 Jun 2010 11:56:33 GMT

Relationships are not easy. Marriage, one of the ultimate intimate relationships requires commitment, compromise, and hard work.

These days, divorce is commonplace. Even amongst couples who seek "marriage counseling", 50% end in divorce.

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BeHappy! my friends

You Have Broken Up, but You Can't Break Free: Lessons in Letting Go

Thu, 03 Jun 2010 12:34:40 GMT

Breaking up a relationship can be a difficult, painful, and sometime long process. The Neighborhood Shrink has advice for "letting go".

I do hope you have ... the kind of night you want to have!

Thu, 03 Jun 2010 12:31:41 GMT

June 1, 2010

For many years, those words - "I do hope you have ... the kind of night you want to have" - marked the early evening sign-off to "The Wave" (smooth jazz) radio station's show with Don Burns in Southern California.

He called his daily 2:00-7:00 p.m. show "the no-stress express", and on May 28th, that ended with the departure of Mr. Burns from the station.

For many years, I would make sure to be listening to the radio at 6:52 when he signed off, just to hear him say it.

Why? Because it made me happy!

So it's a sad thing that no longer will the workday end, and the evening begin, with, "I do hope you have ... the kind of night you want to have". It will certainly be missed by many people - especially me.

If you live in Southern California and have been a faithful WAVE listener, you can surely relate. If you haven't listened to the WAVE (94.7FM), then you obviously won't miss it, but you may have missed somewhat of the end of an era.

Some compare it to Walter Cronkite's famous nightly news sign-off, "And that's the way it is".

Don Burns, with his awesome, smooth, deep voice, made a similar impact - and created a true "happiness" statement - with his "kind of night" mantra.

Hopefully he will surface on the radio again sometime soon. If so, make sure to get in the habit of hearing him make his now famous SoCal statement (you can even listen online if you don't live in the SoCal area). It will put a smile on your face and brighten your evening.

BeHappy! my friends (and "have the kind of "life" you want to have")

Still Not in the Mood...

Tue, 25 May 2010 11:09:19 GMT

Lack of sexual desire (not being in the mood) is one of the most common issues couples face in a relationship. The Neighborhood Shrink talks about the issue in this Note from his Desk.

Since this topic is about sex, you must get the password to enter the "Sex & Happiness" section of the website. Click here to get the password and gain access to this section.

BeHappy! my friends

Sexual Problems: A 4-Part Series of Notes from the Desk of the Neighborhood Shrink.

Wed, 12 May 2010 13:59:46 GMT

Sexual problems occur in both men and women. The Neighborhood Shrink discusses these problems in this series of notes "from his desk".

The first two parts deal with male sexual problems and the second two parts involve female sexual problems. Here are the topics covered:

Since these topics are about sex, you must get the password to enter the "Sex & Happiness" section of the website. Click here to get the password and gain access to this section.

BeHappy! my friends

So You're Thinking About Having an Affair

Thu, 25 Mar 2010 13:35:10 GMT

Sex outside of marriage (having an affair) is extremely common in our society. Check out The Neighborhood Shrink's perspective on the subject.

Sex and Happiness - it's a go!!

Sat, 20 Mar 2010 14:18:34 GMT

Well, the responses I got to my little "favor" asking whether you thought a section on Sex & Happiness should be included on this website were overwhelmingly positive. Every response I got indicated that it was a good idea, and appropriate for the site.

So, I'm going to start building the new section and will plan to launch it soon. Then, I'll keep building on it and adding to it over the next several months and years. I'll send an e-mail to all subscribers of the BeHappy! Newsletter (if you're not yet a subscriber, click here).

Thanks to everyone who responded to my question.

If you would like to contribute some content to the section (opinions, experiences, suggestions, etc.) I would love to hear from you. Just click here to provide your input. I really appreciate it.

BeHappy! my friends

Don't "Rinse and Repeat"

Mon, 15 Mar 2010 13:21:55 GMT

The Neighborhpood Shrink says you should change things up in your life to prevent boredom. In his words - don't "rinse and repeat". Check it out.

A quick "sexual" favor

Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:48:22 GMT

Since sex is an important component of life (and perhaps happiness), I am considering a new section to the BeHappy101.com website called "Sex and Happiness".

Before I create it, though, I'd like your thoughts and feedback as a visitor to this site. Just click here and use the password great sex life (just as it appears here) to enter the new proposed section.

I would really appreciate your thoughts.

BeHappy! my friends.

It Isn't What it Isn't

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 06:20:08 GMT

It isn't what it isn't is a Note from the Desk of the Neighborhood Shrink which discusses the common practice of trying to change your spouse, mate, or lover into something/someone different.

Wear Sunscreen

Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:14:34 GMT

Wear Sunscreen ... some life tips from The Desk of the Neighborhood Shrink (with reference to something you may have seen in the past).

Just returned from the Vancouver Winter Olympics - "global happiness"

Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:06:49 GMT

What an experience! Vancouver Winter Olympics 2010. I love the Olympics - always have.

As I have stated - and implied - many times on this BeHappy! site, happiness must start with an understanding of your own personal Definition of Happineess. In other words, what specifically does your life need in it to be as happy as possible?

For me, one of the criteria is to be pursuing my life's mission, which is to be a positive, creative force for health and happiness. And there are several components to that objective. One small one is to help create adventure, happiness, and memorable moments for myself and those I care about (mainly family and friends). The Olympics allowed me to do that in a small way.

Because I lived in Vancouver for 6 years (from 2001 to 2007), I was able to make it possible for me and 3 of my very good friends (pictured here in front of the Olympic rings in Whistler last week) to make the trip to Vancouver, stay in a beautiful 4-bedroom, 5000 square foot home (owned by some other friends who were away for a month) and enjoy the Olympics as a "once-in-a-lifetime" opportunity for us - at very little expense (which is an issue for many people these days).

And we had a complete blast. Yes, there was partying, but it was much deeper than that. We truly felt we were part of something special. It was inspiring and motivating. There is a generally positive and "global happiness" feeling in the air. And, if you've been following the Olympics, you probably know that a German luge athlete died in a tragic accident on the luge. We were in Vancouver when it happened and went to the luge event the next day. It was brutal. Everyone was saddened by it. Here's a young man (21 years old) who is at one of the most exciting and fulfilling times of his life, tragically killed doing something he has trained - and waited - all his life to do. And his family - watching this on television from thousands of miles away - surely were completely "devastated". It was very, very sad. And at the same time, it made us all so grateful for what we have in our lives - and for just "being alive" in general. And I know people throughout the world felt the same way - especially those of us who were there (from all over the world).

So, as stated many times throughout this BeHappy! system - use gratitude as a key component to your happiness in life. It is a "global happiness" builder. And, if you haven't watched any of the Olympics, check out the closing ceremonies on Sunday, February 28th. They are sure to inspire you, and help you appreciate the world in which we live a bit more.

BeHappy! my friends

Let's Talk About Sex

Tue, 16 Feb 2010 22:03:21 GMT

Let's talk about Sex ... The Neighborhood Shrink has some advice for couples.

Want to live 9-35 years longer, and be healthy and happy?

Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:02:08 GMT

Learn how in this article I wrote for Examiner.com by clicking here.

BeHappy! my friends

Rules for Being Human

Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:27:51 GMT

This Neighborhood Shrink Note discusses ways to not be so anxious about things and not lose sight of the "big picture" in our lives.

Parenting Advice - Sleep

Sat, 30 Jan 2010 12:38:11 GMT

Is the best parenting advice sleep for the happiness of children? This expert thinks so.

Gone Fishing

Tue, 26 Jan 2010 15:43:44 GMT

Stress can be a big issue when it comes to our happiness. The Neighborhood Shrink says ... "go fishing".

The Other Love Triangle

Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:09:53 GMT

The Neighborhood Shrink talks about "other types of love triangles" in this Note from his desk.

I've posted a new article at Examiner.com

Mon, 18 Jan 2010 14:01:39 GMT

January 18, 2010

As an official "Health and Happiness" writer for Examiner.com, I have posted a new article this week related to happiness at work. Check it out by clicking here.

Men Want Women to Woman Up

Thu, 14 Jan 2010 14:54:05 GMT

Like his menu of what women want, The Neighborhood Shrink has a menu for men to give to their women as a way to let them know what men want. Check his Note out here.

A Real "Positive Focus" Experience

Sun, 10 Jan 2010 14:15:13 GMT

January 10, 2009

Today, I was in the small gym here at the marina where we live every other month in Newport Beach, California. The only other person in the gym with me was a guy - about 30 years old, I would guess - who had no legs. He had artificial prosthetic legs, which were completely visible since he had gym shorts on.

At one point, we were lifting weights right next to each other, so I said to him, "those look like some pretty high-tech legs you've got there." He chuckled and we started a conversation. He said he was in a motorcycle accident a few years ago (a woman in a car was on her cell phone and swerved into him, knocking his motorcycle off the road and ripping off both his legs in the accident).

But you know what? Right after he said that, he said ... "but I'm very grateful. It could have been much worse. I had a helmet on, so my head was not injured, and somehow my neck wasn't broken, which could have paralyzed me from the neck down."

"I am just happy to be alive", he added.

What a great lesson in focusing on the positives in life, and on being grateful for what we have, rather than on what we don't have (or have lost).

This happy young man has lost both of his legs. He was obviously an athletic guy (he was handsome, well-built, and exercising in a gym) - so his legs were probably very important to him (as they are for most of us). But he was happy and grateful, even though he no longer had his real legs and had been through a terrible trauma. How his life has changed.

We talked for a few minutes - and I was totally in awe. He was obviously very smart, successful, and balanced. What a great message. He was an example to me - and I hope all of us.

BeHappy! my friends